Here at SCM, we believe building influential relationships with students is critical—for many reasons. Not the least of which is that it makes everything, especially managing behavior, easier. Which is why we’ve gone to lengths in our books to break down in the simplest … Read more
They seem happy around their classmates. They do their work. They follow directions. But it’s clear they don’t like you. You never get a smile. You rarely get eye contact. When you speak to them they return one-word answers or nothing at all. If … Read more
You can’t force it. This is the mistake teachers make. Trying to pull quiet, shy, or distrustful students out of their shell does the opposite. It makes them less likely to participate and engage in discussions. It causes them more discomfort and embarrassment. It … Read more
It’s not because you hold them accountable. This is a myth. In fact, as long as you follow through as promised—and without lecturing, berating, questioning, etc.—your likability will increase. It will get stronger along with their trust in you. But there are distinct and … Read more
They’re a subset of students at every school and in nearly every classroom. The cool kids. They with the fashion sense, the pulse of popular culture, the presence that effortlessly draws others into their sphere. Okay, all fine and good. But here’s the problem: … Read more
It’s easy to admire teachers with the gift of gab, high social IQ, and ability to build rapport so quickly. We look at them and think, “I could never do that.” And you’re probably right. But here’s the thing: You don’t have to. In … Read more
Now that many schools are open for in-person learning, teachers are finding it difficult to build rapport. Social distancing and plexiglass partitions are barrier enough to the connections needed to motivate, inspire, and communicate with students effectively. But it’s mask wearing that takes the … Read more
A rapport-building strategy I wrote about several years ago for in-class learning also happens to be effective online. And that’s saying something. Building rapport online is tough sledding—especially when so many schools and districts forbid teachers from requiring students to turn on their Zoom … Read more