The Biggest First Day Of School Mistake You Can Make

The Biggest First Day Of School Mistake You Can MakeThere is a common mistake teachers make on the first day of school that sets in motion bad student habits and misbehaviors that can last the rest of the school year.

That’s a big statement, I know.

But this one particular mistake will be responsible for scores of teachers getting off to a disastrous classroom management start—one many will never recover from.

And what makes this mistake most troubling is its deviousness. You see, it’s a sneaky little thing, harmless in appearance and barely noticeable, even to the most discerning professional eye.

Most teachers won’t even know they made a mistake, let alone one so spectacular, until weeks later when it hits them like a splash of cold water to the face.

And even then, they won’t know what it is they did wrong.

It starts innocently.

Morning breaks on the first day of school, your new students arrive, and everything proceeds as planned. You model how you want them to enter the classroom. You lead them in a getting-to-know-you activity. And then you get down to the business of your classroom management plan.

Typical of a new group of students after a long summer break, they’re attentive and respectful. And you’re pleased with how things are going.

By late afternoon all is well and rolling along according to plan. You were thorough with your behavior expectations, and they’re following your rules as modeled. Yes! This is going to be a great year.

The end of the day nears. You review the evening’s homework assignment and model how you want your students to gather backpacks, push in chairs, and line up quietly for dismissal. They nod their heads, all smiles. I love my new class!

A minute or so before the bell rings, you give your students the signal to begin the end-of-day procedure. In their exuberance, several students rush the door to line up. A few happily approach you like puppy dogs, wanting to share a story or two. And a few more linger a moment at their desks, chatting with their tablemates.

You remind the runners to walk, tell the lingerers to get a move on, and banter a moment with the students who approached you. And as the bell rings you shoo them all out the door with a wave. What an awesome day. What a great class!

The door closes and you fall into your chair with a happy sigh, never realizing that you just made a colossal mistake, one that will cause your students to begin ignoring your directions, breaking your rules, and engaging in misbehavior.

It happens so fast.

So, did you catch it? Did you notice the mistake?

The teacher in the above scenario was lulled into complacency by her (or his) students’ good behavior. She was so thrilled with how well the first day was going that she dropped the ball during the final minute of the school day.

Her students didn’t follow the end-of-day procedure like it was modeled, but because they weren’t technically “misbehaving,” she let it go. And this is where so many teachers who struggle with classroom management go wrong.

When you let things go, even seemingly innocent behaviors, it nudges a tiny speck of a snowball down a steep and bottomless hill. And the farther it gets down the hill, the more difficult it is to push it back up to the top.

Although the above scenario in and of itself is harmless, it sends a message to your students that you don’t really mean what you say.

And as soon as this germ of an idea gets in their heads, a host of bad things begin to happen. Your students will start tuning out the sound of your voice. They’ll become inattentive and disrespectful. They won’t follow directions well. And misbehavior will be a daily, even hourly, presence in your classroom.

In response you’ll begin raising your voice to show your students that you really do mean it. You’ll start pulling them aside for lectures, talking-tos, and finger-waggings. You’ll grow frustrated.

And your students will begin thinking that maybe you’re not so nice after all.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

That the students in the above scenario didn’t line up for dismissal like the teacher asked was predictable. Students will test the waters, albeit gently, even on the first day of school. And when they do, it’s an opportunity for you to teach a critical lesson—one that will reverberate long after the moment has passed.

The lesson is this: In our classroom, the expectation is that we do things the right way. We listen attentively. We follow directions. We pursue excellence in everything we do—because excellence transfers from the simple and mundane to more important things like scholarship, kindness, and self-respect.

With that in mind, let’s rewind our scenario.

As soon as the teacher notices that her students are not doing what was asked, she stops talking and stands in one place. She ignores the students approaching. She ignores the running. She ignores the students taking their sweet time to line-up. She just waits.

One by one, as the students begin to notice, they get quiet. They shuffle their feet. It dawns on them that they didn’t do what was asked. The teacher then calls for attention. She waits until every student is looking at her. And then she tells them to go back to their seats.

After quickly reviewing her expectations (30 seconds), and without lecturing or raising her voice, she gives her signal for the class to do it again. This time they do it right. She pauses for effect, thanks them for the good day, and sends them on their way.

It comes down to this.

The mistake of course is ever going back on your word. If you say it, if you ask your students of it, then you must back it up with action. Otherwise, your students aren’t going to trust you, believe in you, have reason to listen to you, or be inspired by you. What they will do, though, is run right over you.

The first day of school—when you have your students’ rapt attention and when their minds are open and they’re eager to do well—is the one chance you have to get things right from the beginning.

Whenever your students don’t give you what you want, whether it’s the first day of school or the last, stop your class, ask for and then wait for their attention, and then make them do it again.

Do this whenever they fail to live up to your expectations. Before long, pursuing excellence, both behaviorally and academically, will become a habit they can’t shake.

And you’ll be one happy and effective teacher.

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24 thoughts on “The Biggest First Day Of School Mistake You Can Make”

    • Hi Julia,

      You may certainly link to the article or give a review if you wish. But please do not copy or republish it.

      🙂 Michael

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  1. What to do when the students do not get quiet, would happily talk/yell the entire class period and do not respond to their teacher’s request or even command for attention. I am in a very tough, urban school. In the above example, students would just as well run out the door and knock down anyone in their way instead of sitting down for a re-do. I am trying to find ways to handle this. Thank you in advance.

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    • Hi Kim,

      The advice offered on this website has been given with you in mind. The tips, strategies, and techniques work in even the toughest schools and neighborhoods. Be sure and go through all of the articles in our archive. Combined, they address your question–which is what this website is about. If you have specific questions, I’m happy to help. Just shoot me an email.

      Michael

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  2. Great suggestions here. I’m afraid that, too often, I commit this crime — especially at the beginning of the year when the little Gr. 7s, scared, stressed, and intimidated, come into my art room. I see fear in some eyes and just want to make it better! Hence, the lost pencils, broken art erasers and clean-up problems that abound by December are probably my fault! This year, I will try harder not to succumb to those doe eyes! Good blog!

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  3. I’m so glad I read this article! Today was our second day of school, and the kids were doing a pretty good job of getting ready to go home. But once they lined up, I realized that they were not in the formation that I taught them to stand in, they weren’t paying attention and they were talking and playing. I actually almost said “oh, well” and walked them to the buses, and then I stopped and remembered what you said–and sent every single one of them back to their seats to do it correctly. Wouldn’t you know, they were excellent the second time, and we still made it to the buses on time! Thanks again!

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  4. This is so true for keeping control. As a student in college I noticed this as a problem with professors. Though its not as key when we get older to have such strict guidance, complacency rubs off just the same.

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  5. I am going to try the hands up approach ashave lots of children shouting out and not listening to me and any other tips for kids that continue to shout Please Please

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  6. So many of your attitudes, ideas, plans and philosophies are from Dr. Harry Wong’s book The First Days of School. I really like what you are saying but do you ever credit him?

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    • Hi Martha,

      I’ve never read the book. Nor do I resource any other book when writing articles. All ideas and strategies come from my direct experience in the classroom.

      Michael

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  7. I´ve been working as a English teacher for almost three years. as we already know, teachers are human beings too so we make mistakes too. I realized that many students ask questions about things that are not much but a little bit difficult to be answered. Is there anyway to overcome this kind of situations before we study more about their questions and give them the right answers? I notice that when we don´t answer something and we don´t know that much about their questions, they think we are unable to teach them anything else.

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    • Hi Francisco,

      I don’t think there is anything wrong with saying, “I don’t know.” Being straight with your students is far more important than appearing as if you know everything.

      :)Michael

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  8. hi my students seem too not listen whe im gone and there is a sub that day and so i need a suggestion and ideas please help thanks so much [:

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    • Hi Sierra,

      As you improve your classroom management skills, your influence will extend beyond the time you’re personally with your students, including when you have a substitute. You can read more about this in a future article. I hope you’ll stay tuned!

      Michael

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  9. This was excellent thanks. I made this mistake at my last job (unknowingly so!). I’m starting a new job on Monday and am wage to get off on a good, consistent start.
    Thanks 🙂

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  10. As a current sophomore, I would like to point out that students are always unusually well behaved on the first day. It’s really just some first day jitters that keep them from disbehaving. It is also these jitters that keep them from expressing themselves at all, which is why none of them will want to raise their hand to answer a question they all know and or talking to their friends. It takes a few weeks for them to feel comfortable enough in their surrounding to express themselves, which probably involves a lot of chatter.

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